I hoped to have completed the Ralph Waldo Emerson Blog-A-Day-For-30-Days Project, but I fell short. Oh, I had … still have a lot of ideas that I am determined to put into effect once the body aligns itself with my brain.

I have not chickened out family … my body gave out on me. I will be back soon.

Until the Next Burst of Energy,


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I have chosen to look slightly deep within by challenging myself to a 30 day writing project. Ralph Waldo Emerson is someone who I admire and would loved to have had a thoughtful conversation with. How would it start ? What would I say? Ok … let’s jump in –

Me: “Hello Mr. Emerson, how are you? Okay … okay dumb question seeing that you are dead and if you were alive you would be 208 years old and probably want to cut the bs and get to the point.”

RWE:”You are so right my child now get on with it…” As he sips on the tall cold glass of fresh limeade that I just served the both of us as we sit out on my back patio enjoying the garden and each others company.

Me: “Sorry sir, I guess I am nervous. I really do admire your works, thoughts and work ethic. You are one of the few authors who walk it like they talk it. Um … anyway moving on, I am wondering about my life’s journey. You know questions like ‘where am I headed?’ ‘what is my Divine Life Purpose?’ and am I really pushing myself to be ALL that I can be? I have always tried to instill the ‘Walk your talk’ to my children because all you really have in life is your name (CREDIT) and your word(WORTH).”

RWE:”Tis true my child, all you have in life is your word or credit nowadays and that carries a lot of weight does it not?” So what do you want to be known for ? Whether good or bad you see all that I am remembered for. In my day the fear of GOD and a handshake was all you needed for your word and your word was your sum total. Go back to your core, your basics and work your way back from there. You are a Life Coach, right ? It’s time for you to coach yourself, okay my dear? Like Viagra – take action!”

Me: “Yessir, thank you so much. But …”

RWE: “Work on your core for now. Do that project you agreed to do for your BIBLE Study group …You know the morning and evening devotions … that’s a good starting place. That’s it for now. I am hot out in this 96 degrees, I drank that wonderful limeade of yours and now it’s knocking on my door. This 208 year old bladder is not what it once was … Until the next meeting my child. Good day”

Me: “Thank you Mr. Emerson, and a good day to you too.” I am left smiling & pondering the exchange as I clean up the pitcher and glasses that once held the refreshing beverage that added to our refreshing conversation.”

Thank you Mr. Emerson for not giving me pat answer’s but making me think and hold myself accountable to me!

“Ne te quaesiveris extra.”

“Man is his own star; and the soul that can
Render an honest and a perfect man,
Commands all light, all influence, all fate;
Nothing to him falls early or too late.
Our acts our angels are, or good or ill,
Our fatal shadows that walk by us still.”
Epilogue to Beaumont and Fletcher’s Honest Man’s Fortune

Cast the bantling on the rocks,
Suckle him with the she-wolf’s teat;
Wintered with the hawk and fox,
Power and speed be hands and feet

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~Different ways “we” can start reclaiming that hour or so spot that was solely & wholly dedicated to Oprah & Harpo Productions~

  1. Spend time with those little people who look and act A LOT like you … you know… your children. There are a lot of age appropriate places to take the children for a day of enjoyment – the park; children’s museum ( The Please Touch Museum if in the Philly, PA area); the library … find out what is popping in your area and DO IT!
  2. Reconnect with that Wilder beast of yours whom you refer to as your spouse (equal opportunity here !). That hour can be spent engaging in “stimulating” conversations; creating your own spousal book club; starting a brand new hobby together (once my husband and I got stuck in a blizzard that left us house bound for the better part of a week … we wound up re upholstering a couple of chairs that we got from a quaint little second-hand store. They turn out really nice, we even got a couple of offers for the chairs ! So, now we do little projects like that just because. You can decide to get healthy together … take up jogging, inline skating or even scuba diving ( I have Sickle Cell Thalassemia Disease which prevents me from getting into water colder that bath water, so I live vicariously thru “The
    Hubby”& “Kids” when it comes to this and other like activities). “The Hubby” took up a boating and water safety class (another vicarious class for me) and it was really fun and interesting. Look, do something … ANYTHING before it’s too late and you wind up with regrets instead of memories. Use your imagination. Oh, how about taking couples massage ? See, the ideas are just flowing … they are ENDLESS!!!
  3. Go out with the girls. You don’t have to eat all the time. This is another great way to do a group hobby such as jogging, art class, Pilates class, cooking class (The
    Hubby-yes, him again! He is my BFF – anyways he and I have done Bonsai and even Cupcake Decorating classes together. Or, go on some sort of Gayle/Oprah-Thelma & Louise adventure. Just remember you have one hour to get it done … so go for it!!!
  4. DO YOU!!! Yes, I said “do you”and what I mean by this is simply this … We women for the past 25plus years have been united around Boob tube for our hour of fun, laughs and edutainment(education intended, but entertainment never-the-less). This is OUR TIME for growth and our time to be selfish. Take this hour and use it wisely, or you know what … be silly with it/have fun !!! Do you, do what you feel like doing in this Golden Hour. I think it is very possible for us to take just one itty-bitty hour out of our GOD given twenty-four and claim it as ours and no one elses. We always put everyone and everything else before us and we find ourselves on the bottom of our very own To-Do-List. See, I even put us at number four … lol! Keep praying for me … Hey you could even start a prayer power hour!!! You could really spend that time reading and/or studying the BIBLE, books etc.

LOOK, MY BOTTOM LINE TO YOU IS TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND TO DO YOU! JUST DO YOU … AND let me know your plans and how you are executing them.

Until next time beloved …


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Inspire – Acquire

The purpose of Abettor Concierge is to use my 20+ years of being an entrepreneur, life coach and information junkie to Connect & Inspire like-minded people who are ready to release all the negatives of the past and Embrace all that is good and positive which will help them to Acquire their personal definition of success.  ♥

Here are the basics about me Bliss –

  1. I am happily married for 13 years and counting. I love my husband and I absolutely LOVE being married!!! We have had our ups and downs but more ups than downs. This should hopefully show that I am level-headed and competent … let the record also show that I am a great communicator – I speak MAN – how else is he still walking and breathing and in his right mind and I as well?!
  2. I am a Mommi !!! I LOVE IT !!! I feel really blessed to have children. Due to my SCTD(more on that … ) pregnancy for me is/was life threatening. My first pregnancy blessed me with a healthy, vibrant, happy baby girl who is turning 13 soon! My second pregnancy I wasn’t as lucky. My little boy was stillborn. GOD has given me the awesome gift of being a surrogate/adoptive mommi for several wonderful kids of all ages, hues and cultures!!!
  3. I was born with a life threatening disease known as Sickle Cell Beta Thalassemia … the SCTD that I alluded to earlier. You may know it by its more predominate name Sickle Cell Anemia. The doctor’s told my parents that I would have a better chance at life if we would migrate to either the UK or USA … America it was! So, I know all the struggles and depressions that a life threatening/life altering disease brings … BUT … I don’t let it stop me, my motto is “I HAVE IT…IT DOESN’T HAVE ME!!!” I live my life to the fullest the best way I know how, I may have to take a few rest stops along the way and I may not get to the finish line the same time as you do, but trust me … I WILL!
  4. I am a great conversationalist – hence my wonderful coaching career and marriage ! I am a Certified Christian Life Coach. I am not preachy or biased … just practical. I love learning about different cultures and creeds of people and life, I may not always like them, but I respect them for the most part. If we are willing we can learn a great deal from each other. I do believe in free speech & listening  – Yes, you are free to speak, but I don’t have to listen to anything that I find maliciously vengeful or hurtful. I would like to consider myself open-minded and try to listen to reason, but if it is not reasonable …
  5. I LOVE GOD !!! Plain and simple.
  6. I love life and all, well most of the challenges that life offers us on a daily basis. I am an Optimist. There is so much negativity bombarding everyday that someone has to wear the Super Human Cape … I choose to wear the cape, now the tights I am not to sure about … especially in the summer.

That’s about it … ENJOY!


Oh, and most importantly … I love to learn!

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Santa Isn’t the Only One with a List

Happy Birthday to me, happy birthday to me, happy birthday to meee … HAPPY BIRTHDAY TOOO MEEEEE !

This is my Birthday present to me, for me and by me. On this day – May 15th, 19XX I was born and the world hasn’t been right ever since !

After watching the movie – “The Bucket List”, and an interesting documentary about a young man who with the help his friends and some random people, developed a to do list. In both stories you see the characters making their ‘lists’ and trying to complete them before time runs out.
Well, I have decided to make a list of my own and have entitled my list … “The Bouquet List”.
Creating, maintaining and publishing a blog and/or website is on my list. I ask that you will join me on this adventure to freedom. Make your own “Bouquet List” and share freedom … Freedom to focus on you and all of your dimensions – mentally, physically, emotionally & spiritually.
Let’s have some fun!

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